Scripts and Social Stories

Scripts

I often say that JC has "scripts" for various social situations and when these scripts aren't followed, his anxiety level rises and he often cannot function.
Think for a  minute if you went to a foreign country.  Rather than driving on the right side of the road, everyone drove on the left. And what if instead of eating at the table, you ate on the floor. And instead of sleeping in a hotel room you slept outside.  Twins would all be very unnerving.  ESPECIALLY if no one warned you about it.
JC relies on routines so heavily to give him the understanding of what to expect in situations. He then develops a script in his mind as to what that situation should look like (for us, things like: we drive on the right side of the road, we eat at a table, we sleep in a bed in a hotel).  And if that script changes (especially without notice) his expectations aren't met and he cannot adjust by himself.

I think of it like this:
JC lives in a box - his comfort zone.  He has all of his rules and scripts setup inside that box like wallpaper.  Sometimes he allows someone in there with him, but they have to also follow his scripts or he quickly kicks them out.  Occasionally he will venture outside of his box, but quickly retreats back inside the safety of that comfort zone when life gets overwhelming.   The walls of the box are always changing.  Sometimes, they are like clear plexi-glass.  He can look through to the outside world and sometimes interacts by meeting you half way.  And other times, the walls are made out of bricks and there is no getting in or out.  The majority of the time, I would say the walls are made out of sticks.  Strong, but able to be permeated with the right tools.  And just like we build our houses to protect us from the elements or rain, wind and sun - JC has built his box to protect himself from the unknown, the unexpected, and the unexplained elements of his world.

So how do we get through into JC's box?  Certainly not by knocking the walls down like the big bad wolf or trying to drag him out kicking and screaming.  We have to remember that this box serves a purpose for him.  So we work to be included in the box, then from the inside out we can gradually adjust the structure, add to or change the scripts and maybe chip away bit by bit at the rigid walls.

This is why we use visual aides and social stories.

What are Social Stories?

Social stories help explain what is expected in certain situations. They can be simple short stories (we use pictures along with them) that describe a social situation and give the child a "script" to follow when one is not readily available already.  For our example above, it would be like sending us to a foreign country with a guide book that says "we drive on the left side of the road, eat on the floor and sleep outside".  All of a sudden our experience isn't surrounded by anxiety and uncertainty.  We may not like it - its still outside of our comfort zone - but at least we know what to expect.

Social Stories contain certain types of sentences that describe social situations and explain in detail what is expected in those situations.

• Descriptive Sentences: these are statements of fact... e.g: "Sometimes I ask for a cookie"
• Perspective Sentences: these are statements that refer to or describe an individual’s internal state, their thoughts, feelings, beliefs, or physical condition…e.g. “I like cookies"
• Directive Sentences: these describe desired responses to social situations... e.g. "If Mommy says "no" I don't scream or cry"
• Affirmative Sentences: these often express a commonly shared value or opinion within a given culture…e.g. “I can wait or choose something else"

It seems simplistic but after hearing the story several times, the concept is engrained and when the situation arises, a simple reminder will help ease the anxiety of the situation.

In addition to molding behaviors, another important reason to use social stories is to provide preparation for the unknown. We went on vacation recently and used a social story so that JC would have a preview of what to expect so that all of the new sights and activities wouldn't overwhelm him. They are a useful tool, along with visual schedules and first/then cards to alleviate stress in day to day activities.