Scripts and Social Stories

Scripts

I often say that JC has "scripts" for various social situations and when these scripts aren't followed, his anxiety level rises and he often cannot function.
Think for a  minute if you went to a foreign country.  Rather than driving on the right side of the road, everyone drove on the left. And what if instead of eating at the table, you ate on the floor. And instead of sleeping in a hotel room you slept outside.  Twins would all be very unnerving.  ESPECIALLY if no one warned you about it.
JC relies on routines so heavily to give him the understanding of what to expect in situations. He then develops a script in his mind as to what that situation should look like (for us, things like: we drive on the right side of the road, we eat at a table, we sleep in a bed in a hotel).  And if that script changes (especially without notice) his expectations aren't met and he cannot adjust by himself.

I think of it like this:
JC lives in a box - his comfort zone.  He has all of his rules and scripts setup inside that box like wallpaper.  Sometimes he allows someone in there with him, but they have to also follow his scripts or he quickly kicks them out.  Occasionally he will venture outside of his box, but quickly retreats back inside the safety of that comfort zone when life gets overwhelming.   The walls of the box are always changing.  Sometimes, they are like clear plexi-glass.  He can look through to the outside world and sometimes interacts by meeting you half way.  And other times, the walls are made out of bricks and there is no getting in or out.  The majority of the time, I would say the walls are made out of sticks.  Strong, but able to be permeated with the right tools.  And just like we build our houses to protect us from the elements or rain, wind and sun - JC has built his box to protect himself from the unknown, the unexpected, and the unexplained elements of his world.

So how do we get through into JC's box?  Certainly not by knocking the walls down like the big bad wolf or trying to drag him out kicking and screaming.  We have to remember that this box serves a purpose for him.  So we work to be included in the box, then from the inside out we can gradually adjust the structure, add to or change the scripts and maybe chip away bit by bit at the rigid walls.

This is why we use visual aides and social stories.

What are Social Stories?

Social stories help explain what is expected in certain situations. They can be simple short stories (we use pictures along with them) that describe a social situation and give the child a "script" to follow when one is not readily available already.  For our example above, it would be like sending us to a foreign country with a guide book that says "we drive on the left side of the road, eat on the floor and sleep outside".  All of a sudden our experience isn't surrounded by anxiety and uncertainty.  We may not like it - its still outside of our comfort zone - but at least we know what to expect.

Social Stories contain certain types of sentences that describe social situations and explain in detail what is expected in those situations.

• Descriptive Sentences: these are statements of fact... e.g: "Sometimes I ask for a cookie"
• Perspective Sentences: these are statements that refer to or describe an individual’s internal state, their thoughts, feelings, beliefs, or physical condition…e.g. “I like cookies"
• Directive Sentences: these describe desired responses to social situations... e.g. "If Mommy says "no" I don't scream or cry"
• Affirmative Sentences: these often express a commonly shared value or opinion within a given culture…e.g. “I can wait or choose something else"

It seems simplistic but after hearing the story several times, the concept is engrained and when the situation arises, a simple reminder will help ease the anxiety of the situation.

In addition to molding behaviors, another important reason to use social stories is to provide preparation for the unknown. We went on vacation recently and used a social story so that JC would have a preview of what to expect so that all of the new sights and activities wouldn't overwhelm him. They are a useful tool, along with visual schedules and first/then cards to alleviate stress in day to day activities.

A First Look at the IEP Process

In a few months JC will start the process of developing an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) to transition him into preschool & beyond.  My head is spinning with questions and I want to be as prepared as possible going into this...
I am very happy to share with you a guest post from Alison W regarding what a parent needs to know about the IEP process.  Lots of useful information here!  Enjoy!

IEP Team Members

As a parent you are the first member of your child's IEP team. But there are other members who come and go depending on the needs of your child. As you child moves from Part C with an IFSP to Part B with an IEP the core team members may change.

The New Players on the Field

While there are array of people who will move onto and off of the IEP field, two players will probably do the largest amount of ball-carrying for students with special needs. They're the ones who will send you letters announcing scheduled meetings, and the ones who will hand you the 5,000 copies of the booklets on knowing your rights. They'll be responsible for evaluating your child on arrival in the system and periodically thereafter. One of these individuals will probably be assigned as your child's case manager. This team may change year from year without notice.

Special Education Teacher: The special education teacher is the person who will give your child tests that assess level of educational achievement and ability. The special education teacher may make observations during the meeting about the appropriate educational placement for your child. Should your child need special learning techniques, modifications and accommodations in the classroom, the special education teacher will be able to strategize those with you and the teacher, and help monitor progress. This teacher will be charged with outlining your child's educational progress and prognosis for the IEP, and with gathering opinions from all other teachers as appropriate. What you hear from the teacher at the meeting should be consistent with what you've been hearing throughout the year. If not, ask why. If you haven't been talking with the teacher throughout the year ... well, then I'll ask, why not? Don't be a stranger.

The Regular Education Teacher: From the school's point of view, nobody knows your child better than the teacher. So it's natural for the teacher to be involved in the planning of the IEP. Your child's regular education teacher will ALWAYS be at the meeting. That's good news for you if you've built a rapport with a teacher, or if a teacher has a particularly good feel for your child's abilities and needs.

Other players may include: Speech-Language Pathology, School Social Worker or School Psychologist, Physical Therapist (PT), and Occupational Therapist (OT) depending on your child’s needs. Remember services can only be added or taken away with your permission. Don’t be afraid to tell the team what you think should be done and why. They too, will tell you why these players may be needed or no longer needed.

Be sure that all team members are present. While you can call an IEP meeting any time you wish, sometimes the annual review is the only one you need. Attendance is important!

Don’t forget you are the most important member of the IEP team. Yeah, you, the parent! You are the most important member of your child's IEP team, far and away. You are the expert on your child, and your child is the reason all those people are sitting there. You are the only one to have seen your child in multiple settings, in multiple school years, in multiple moods. You are the only one who has talked to the doctors and the specialists. You are the only one who has traced your child's development from early days until right now. And you are the only one who will still be involved in your child's care years from now, when the decisions made at this table will bear fruit.

The IEP

What’s an Individualized Education Program (IEP)?

Each public school child who receives special education and related services must have an Individualized Education Program (IEP). IEP creates an opportunity for teachers, parents, school administrators, related services personnel, and students (when appropriate) to work together to improve educational results for children with disabilities.  IEPs are required under Part B of IDEA and cover ages 3 to 21.  The IEP focuses on how to help students be successful in the education setting. Sound educational decision-making includes observations by people who know the child well and objective information from various tests and assessments.

The IEP includes information about the child's present levels of performance on various tests and measures and how they are functioning in an educational setting compared to their peers. The IEP also includes information about goals and objectives for the child, specifically how educational problems will be addressed. The IEP should also include ways for parents and educators to measure the child's progress toward the goals and objectives.

What should be in my child's IEP?

The IEP should accurately describe your child's learning problems and how these problems are going to be dealt with. One of the best and clearest ways to describe your child's unique problems is to include information from the evaluations. The IEP document should contain a statement of the child's present levels of educational performance. If your child has reading problems, the IEP should include reading subtest scores. If your child has problems in math calculation, the IEP should include the math calculation subtest scores.

Goals and objectives

The IEP should also include a statement of measurable annual goals, including benchmarks and short- term objectives. The goals and objectives should be related to your child's needs that result from the disability and should enable your child to be involved in and progress in the general curriculum. The goals and objectives should meet other educational needs that result from your child's disability. Goals are written for 364 days because at day 365 is when your next meeting will be.

The IEP goals should focus on reducing or eliminating the child's problems. The short term objectives should provide you and the teacher with ways to measure educational progress. They should be written to close the educational, behavioral, or speech/language gap-getting your child to their same aged peers. Are reading decoding skills being mastered? How do you know this? An IEP should include ways for you and the teacher to objectively measure your child's progress or lack of progress (regression) in the special education program.

Data Based

Everything in an IEP is driven by DATA. This is important because it is how you and the team will know if the goal has been mastered or not. If you don’t understand how they will know this ask. Data is needed to know 1) where they are when compared to their peer group (same aged peers not grade level); 2) if they are making progress.  If your child is not learning and making progress – with progress measured objectively – the IEP should be revised.

The Meeting

Bring your ideas about goals and objectives. Don’t be afraid to speak up about what you think. All of the people at the table at your child's IEP meeting are going to have ideas about what your child should be learning in the upcoming year.  You have every right to speak up about the goals and objectives (and placement) they write into your child's IEP for the year, and schools will WANT to hear your thoughts and ideas.  If you don’t understand what’s being shared-TELL the team. The IEP team will do their best to schedule it when everyone can make it. This is many cases is before or after school. Please show up to your child's IEP meeting! It's important!

So first, your state code is thick, and you're never going to be able to read it all but take some time and read your parent rights and responsibilities BEFORE the meeting.  Ask your IEP team if you have questions about your rights.

All schools prepare a "draft copy" of your child's IEP. You have the right to see it before the meeting! Request a copy! This draft should ONLY include reports with data. Nothing else! Everything else is talked about at the meeting.  (As a special education teacher, I make changes right there during the meeting on my draft copy.) You also have input in classroom accommodations, modifications, and services.  As a Case Manager, I take the last couple of minutes before closing the meeting to summarize what was said, any changes and any agreements. I also tell parents that I will send home a “final” copy of the IEP within 7 business days. Why seven? This gives parents time to think about what was talked about and ask for a meeting to readdress something they forgot or to add or change pieces. Deadlines are different from state to state on when final copies have to be to parents-mine is 10 business days.

An IEP is NEVER final. It is a living document--that can be changed as any point in time by any member of the IEP team. This means three weeks after the meeting, a new one can be created or six months from the meeting. You don’t have to go a whole year with it. Your child’s success in the general education classroom in VERY important. if they aren’t making it-something needs change. Don’t be afraid to ask for a meeting if you think something isn’t working.

What is Least Restrictive Environment? (aka LRE)

The IEP team will recommend services in the least restrictive environment (LRE) appropriate to your child’s needs. This means that the team will consider how your child can be educated with children who do not have disabilities, to the maximum extent possible. If means that services can be provided in the general education classroom, pull out to a resource room, or to a center based placement.  Children fluidly move through their least restrictive environment depending on what they NEED to be successful. This can change throughout a year or your child’s education. As an example: they might start out with all the services being provided out of the classroom and as they master the skills move to services being provided both in and out of the classroom. Teams tend to be more conservative and services are provided outside of the class to start with so the student experience success verse being in the class and experience failure.

My name is Alison Whiteley. I write for Toad-ally Exceptional Learners Blog. Thanks so much to JCs Mom for having me guest blog. It’s been so much fun. The freebie has information on transition and ideas for what you can do to help get the school year off to a great start. If you would like to know more about me please visit my blog.

 

Link to freebie: https://docs.google.com/file/d/0B_h6TZs4mLsFdHVmSDdsd0hVbTg/edit?usp=sharing 

Our Fun Days of Summer

WEEK 1:

 

WEEK 2:

Make Something Monday:

Take a Trip Tuesday

Wet  n Wild Wednesday

Thinking Thursday (July 4th in a college town)

Fun Friday:

WEEK 3:

Make Something Monday

Take a Trip Tuesday

Wet n Wild Wednesday

Thinking Thursday

Fun Friday

Week 4:

Week 5:

Week 6:

Pinwheels: A lesson in Life

Pinwheels are a staple of childhood.  They are so simplistic in their design, but seem magical to a toddler.  JC was playing with a pinwheel last night, or at least trying to.  He knew that blowing on it should make it spin, but it wasn't quite working for him.  He couldn't get his mouth puckered the right way to blow a single stream of air.  His attempt was more like a heavy breath so the pinwheel wouldn't move.  He struggles with mouth movements (which is part of his issue with speech) and only recently successfully "puckered up" for a kiss :)

As the pinwheel sat lifeless, his frustration level started to rise so I sat beside him to help.  We both held the stem and we sat face to face with the pinwheel between us.  As he would blow his heavy breath, I would secretly blow a directed stream of air to make the pinwheel turn.  His eyes lit up with excitement!  Once again, he faltered the mouth position and tried his best to blow - as I blew and the pinwheel started to spin he squealed with delight.  This continued for quite some time and as I sat there I realized what an amazing moment this was.  It wasn't just playtime with a pinwheel, it was a moment when we were both acting as one.  I was replacing his breath with mine.  I was filling in the blanks where he wasn't able to do so.  I was providing a chance for him to succeed where he had previously failed.  It was an opportunity to show JC that even those things that frustrate him can be overcome... that by perservering through difficulties magical things can happen.  Maybe next time he picks up the pinwheel, I won't be right there using my breath to make it spin, and maybe he will again be frustrated that his efforts are in vain.  But then again, maybe he will remember that it CAN be done and he will keep trying.  At that moment, I felt that fleeting feeling that I was making the world easier for my little guy.  And I wished that every frustration could be eliminated that easily.  I would breathe every breath for him, to make his world easier.

Weekly Fun Schedules

Weekly Schedules for weeks filled with Play, Learning and FUN!

I will update more weeks soon!

Links to the actual Pinterest Projects:

Gum Drop Geometry

Water and Ice Play

Baking Soda Volcanos

 Balloon Ping Pong

 Links to the actual Pinterest Projects:

Marshmallow Catapult

Outdoor Shower

Fireworks in a Jar

Water Gun Target Practice

See more summer fun ideas  HERE

Ready for Summer: Planning with Visual Strategies

(Much of the first part of this post is updated from a previous post... but made relevant to summer planning)

Summer is coming, the kids will be out of school and for me that means one thing... Panic mode!  I'm not sure about you, but I often have nightmares about being home alone with my kids and having no way to entertain them (well, maybe not nightmares, really...  More like anxiety, fear, and panic).  My oldest, BB, is 7 and requires constant movement and conversation or he will completely implode. My youngest, JC, is 2.5 and has Autism, sensory processing disorder, a speech delay. He requires constant attention, redirection and adherence to specific routines or he will implode.  I am left in the middle trying to keep both kids happy, while trying not to implode myself!

I have been planning for the impending summer craze for several weeks.  JC has difficulty when his daily routine is altered, so what is going to happen when we don't follow this routine any longer?  Luckily, I have a solution.  My plan is to build on what already works.

I have been utilizing visual strategies with JC for several months.  Visual strategies can consist of visual schedules, choice cards, first/then cards or any other visual tool used to help in the planning, organizing, remembering or completing tasks.  It may consist of pictures for younger children or those who are illiterate or it may be words or lists for older children. The use of visual cues helps to organize the task or daily activities making the expectations clear and understandable. This reduces anxiety and alleviates mental stress.

Why are Visual Schedules, Choice cards, and First/Then cards so important?

Visual Schedules, Choice Cards, First/Then cards are all "tools" that I rely on very heavily.  For JC, understanding verbal instructions or grasping auditory information in the mix of an overstimulating environment is very difficult.  It takes him longer to process information that he hears than that which he sees for a variety of reasons, many of which I don't fully understand (yet).

Primarily, it seems that his mind works more visually. He cues into words and seems to need a visual image of that word to process it. In the case of verbal language, if his brain takes a word and then creates a corresponding image before processing the word, then it makes sense that the processing time would be longer.  A perfect example of this is food choice.  If I ask JC, "what do you want to eat?" there is never a response. It is too much for his brain to process.  For us, it's a simple question.  But for JC, the search through his memory for all the food choices and then the process of labeling each one with a word is just too many steps.  Now if I ask, "do you want a banana or toast" that CHOICE makes it a little easier, but often there is still no response until I use a visual cue showing a picture of a banana and a picture of toast.  Then (and only then) will he make a choice by pointing to the picture.  It's like having a multiple choice test.  Choosing an answer from 4 given choices is easier than answering with an essay from memory. This is why Choice Cards are so helpful for JC.  And because it takes his brain takes longer and uses more energy to process those simple tasks that we take for granted, he is overwhelmed more easily and has mental fatigue after simple tasks.  His daily activities leave him feeling the way I used to feel after a long day at work working with a budgeting committee to iron out corporate budgets.  It's mentally exhausting.  Using the visual cues to alleviate that demand on his brain for these simple tasks frees up that energy to be used elsewhere throughout the day which means his overall mood and emotional/mental state is much better.
Click HERE to watch this in action!

Think about why we make "To Do" lists.  I often have so many things floating around in my mind that I start to get anxious that I'm not going to finish then all. So I make a list. This helps to organize my thoughts and provides a visual system which I can refer to and "check off" when complete.

Also consider the power of visual cues.  When we eat at a restaurant, they put pictures on the menu for a reason... Because it is powerful.  I am a lover of Pinterest, the ultimate visual choice board (many of the ideas below came from pinterest). We would never read all of those articles in activities for children and recipes or cleaning tips.  But with a pictures, suddenly it all becomes easy to process. We are all visual by nature, but some are even more so.

Visual Schedules:

We rely on the visual cues for many aspects of daily life, not just food choices.  I have 3 different "schedules" that I use daily: morning, afternoon and evening. I adjust the schedule according to our daily plans, and seeing that schedule gives jc an understanding of what the expectations are for that period.
Morning: eat, diaper change, get dressed, go in the car, go to school
Afternoon: eat lunch, diaper change, nap, table/work times, choice time (where JC chooses activities to do)
Evening: eat, play outside, bath, get dressed, book, bedtime

JC understands how this works and if we are having a difficult time in the mornings, I can rely on the schedule to say "look, we ate, now we need to get dressed so that we can go to school". It is amazing what a difference those visual cues make in that simple conversation.

I also have schedules for specific routines like bath time and teeth brushing. JC hates to wash his hair and face. It is has always been a battle.  But with the bath time routine schedule, the pictures show: clothes off, get in tub, wash body, wash hair, dry with towel, all done.  The very first time I used that routine/schedule, JC washed his hair.... Simply because the picture told him too. His visual processing is very strong, and he relies heavily on it so I am learning to use that to my advantage.

Choice Cards:

We use choice cards to allow JC to have some control over his activities.  I can choose some predetermined activities or foods and he can choose what he wants.  It also helps lot limit the endless choices which can sometimes become overwhelming. JC has a difficulty focusing on a take for an extended period. And transitions are also difficult. The choice cards are useful in both of these situations. Imagine being surrounded by a room full of toys and activities and being told to choose only 1. For JC, this is difficult. So allowing him to choose from a few choices with visual pictures makes this choice easier. I also often allow him to choose 2 or 3 activities and we work on transitions. First we do activity 1, he may loose interest flutter around the room after only a minute and at that point I refer to the visual cues and say "you choose cars, are you all done with cars". When he replies "all done cars" we move on to the next activity on his card (which he choose). This models appropriate transitioning and focusing. He cannot move from one activity until he is finished with it, and if he chooses to do an activity, he must follow through with it. It also helps reinforce the importance and adherence to the visual schedule structure.

First /Then cards:

This is my favorite :)  This allows me to direct behavior that I want by using the a goal system. First put shoes on... Then go outside.  First eat, Then you can have a cookie. It works amazingly well!  So well in fact, that I have been able to forgo the pictures in many cases and just use the verbiage: "First... then..." And he understands the directions verbally.  We are making progress!

Think about why we make "To Do" lists.  I often have so many things floating around in my mind that I start to get anxious that I'm not going to finish then all. So I make a list. This helps to organize my thoughts and provides a visual system which I can refer to and "check off" when complete.

Also consider the power of visual cues.  When we eat at a restaurant, they put pictures on the menu for a reason... Because it is powerful.  I am a lover of Pinterest, the ultimate visual choice board. We would never read all of those articles in activities for children and recipes or cleaning tips.  But with a pictures, suddenly it all becomes easy to process. We are all visual by nature, but some are even more so.

These visual strategies have helped me to bridge the gap in his communication ability making daily life much more manageable. In planning for the summer, I can rely on the use of this system that is already in place by simply altering the tasks each day.

How do I create a visual system?

There are loads of ways to create a system, and its all about what will work for your child. I like using laminated cards with Velcro tabs which make it easy to customize for the day or activity or need. Magnets work well too but Velcro is less expensive and more portable. I keep all of my pictures and cards in a folder with different sections for food, activities, schedules etc.  
I used clip art for specific pictures that related to our needs. You can also purchase memberships to websites or order sets online. For JC, eating is a huge issue, so many of my pictures are centered around meals and foods.

If you are just getting started, sit down and make a list of what you would like the visual system to assist your child with on a daily basis. If it is certain behaviors, perhaps a First/Then card would suffice.  If your child has difficulties with communication, you may find the choice cards helpful.  Or if your child needs strict adherence to a schedule or routine, the visual schedule will be helpful. We use a combination of all 3 so I used clipart for foods, behaviors (no running, no yelling, no hitting, ask for help etc), play choices, and routines like teeth brushing and potty training. Your pictures choices will depend on your needs.

Once you have an idea of where to start, search for images that you want to use (unless you are purchasing a ready-made system). For example, I searched google for "visual schedule no hit" and got a variety of images showing a child hitting and a red line through it.  I picked my favorite and copied it into a Word document to get started. Once I had my "library" or images I printed, cut and laminated. Then I created the cards by simply using a printed document with colored squares, which I laminated and attached Velcro.
There are also websites that allow you to print pre-determined images.  www.do2learn.com is one that is very helpful.


Food for thought:  I had favorite grocery store.  A few years ago, they remodeled and moved EVERYTHING. The first time I visited the newly designed store, I left in frustration because I couldn't find anything and I missed the comfortable feeling of my old store.  It took me several trips (and I actually found a new favorite store for a while) before I became accustomed to the new layout. My routine had been changed and it was such a shock to my system that I actually left the store and found a new store to shop in.  What would have helped?  Perhaps more notice?  Maybe a map of the new store?  So think of these visual strategies as a "map" for your child's day. Use it in whatever way works best for you and for your child. I tweaked my system several times before I got it just right.

For more ideas and examples of Visual Strategies you can also visit my Pinterest page: http://pinterest.com/JCsSPDMommy/

How do I start implementing this visual system?

If you're looking to implement a type of visual system, start now.  It will help in the long run if your child already relies on the visual schedule in some aspect so that they are exposed to the concept before the start of summer.

I started with the First /Then cards. It is only 2 pictures, it isn't overwhelming for the child and it supports behaviors that you need to encourage.
Start with 2 preferred activities: play cars, then color. That gets the child's "buy-in" to the process as a whole.  This is in essence teaching the backbone of the entire visual schedule/card system. Once the child is comfortable using the the first/then card for those activities, add in the behavior that you want to elicit. First, get dressed... Then go outside. You can even use a 3 cue system of First, Then, Next where the middle activity is the less preferred.  First, play with trains, then change your diaper, then go outside. It's the same concept as a reward system, but it just takes it to a visual level.
Once that works well, you can step up to choice cards and allow the child to choose the activities to put on the first/then card. And eventually you can "grow" into a visual schedule with multiple activities visible at once. But until the child understands the basics, seeing all of those pictures at once can be overwhelming and counterproductive.
Start this process before your schedule changes for summer. Introducing it into an expected routine will help your child accept it.

Even children who do not have special needs could benefit from visual schedules.  No matter the reason, if you choose to try a visual system the key is consistency and patience. It isn't going to change things overnight. But eventually you may start to notice a difference in small tasks, and hopefully in the overall mood of the day.  Once your child is comfortable relying on the visual strategy, you can make changes to the daily task and routine by changing the pictures.

Beyond the Visual System:

Visual systems may make the transition into a new routine smoother for your child, but what information do you include on the schedule?  JC recently had a difficult morning because at around 10:00 he realized that we hadn't gone anywhere yet.  Usually we are on the road to school by 7:45, but this morning he had been awake for hours and we hadn't left the house.  He started repeating, "ride Mommy car, ride Mommy car, ride Mommy car" because he couldn't wrap his mind around his place in the day since we hadn't followed our normal schedule.  I pulled out the visual schedule to show him our plan for the day:  We ate, we played trains, now its time for a snack and we are going to play with playdough.  He then understood the "new" schedule and adapted to it. 

Remember that many times, the smallest things that we take for granted (like going for a ride in the car each morning) have become engrained in our children.  Those with special needs, especially autism, may have difficulty understanding the "big picture" because they get stuck on the details. So provide those details so that they can fill in the blanks in their minds.

Now we are back to the question of what "details" to provide... what do we put on those schedules?  My goal is to ensure that my kids are receiving appropriate stimulation throughout the summer, while having fun and learning. If your children are like mine, you will hear "Mom, I'm bored" or "Mom, I don't know what to do" so many times that you will threaten household chores to the next child who utters those phrases. But remember, your child has become accustomed to a strict routine.  During school, they are told what to do and how long to do it. Without that structure, they are lost.  Use that to your advantage.  Maintain a routine throughout the summer to optimize the experiences of summer, without the boredom and constant need for guidance.  Think of yourself as the camp counselor/teacher/therapist/supermom that you are!

To get you started, HERE is a link to my Pinterest board for summer activities perfect for all ages. But don't feel like you have to schedule every moment of every day.  Having a general skeleton schedule will be just as useful and less stressful in most cases.

I also like the idea of having one fun activity planned each day for Activity Time.  This is actually my plan for the coming week.  My Pinterest Board has enough ideas to last all summer!

 

 

To see my actual weekly schedule along with links to activities click HERE

 

You can be as detailed and organized as you want.  Start a binder, make a list, or just decide what you want to do day to day.  But by "scheduling" the intent of the day, your child will know what to expect and will look forward to the day's activities.  For children who need more elaborate schedules, you can take the skeleton schedule template and add details as described above.  For older children or for those without special needs, the skeleton schedule may suffice.  Tailor the idea to the needs of your child and family.

And for that "I'm Bored" that you will inevitably hear... Try this!
Put different activities in a jar.  When your child says "I'm bored" have them pull out an activity.  It may be something fun, educational, or it may be doing chores!  The agreement is that whatever it is, they have to do it.  I put things like: Read, Write a story, Write a letter, play legos, clean your room, jump on the trampoline, etc.

Now that I have a plan for summertime fun, I feel much less panic - and I'm actually excited about making memories and enjoying the summer with both kids at home!

Autism... A Diagnosis for JC

Today We received confirmation of something that I have known in my heart for quite some time.
JC has autism.

But before you say "I'm sorry", let me tell you why I am not.  JC is a wonderfully sweet and affectionate, silly little boy who experiences the world full-force. He makes me laugh every day and I couldn't imagine a day without him. But, The world is difficult for JC. He doesn't seem to understand situational circumstances, social expectations and has difficulty communicating (which goes beyond the speech delay).  This adds up to a challenging world. He goes though each day with such frustration from feeling misunderstood and attacked and I feel so helpless. Every day I feel like I am failing him because I can't make it all better. He is overwhelmed much of the time and seems held back by issues beyond his control. Now we know why. Now we know the reason behind the behavior, which at times seemed unexplainable. And now, we can help him navigate through this world which consumes him.

Don't get me wrong... It breaks my heart that he faces these challenges.  As a mother, I want to remove these obstacles from his path.  But I'm happy that we have received an early diagnosis and early intervention.  And I feel validated in the decisions and sacrifices that we have made up to this point to focus on his development and to push for early evaluation. I truly expect that he will continue to respond well to therapy and will eventually learn to adapt to his world.

So while I wish things were different for him... I am not sorry that we have uncovered what lies at the root of his issues. I feel like we have reached the top of a mountain, only to realize there is an even larger mountain ahead of us.  But we have seen mountains before, and we will conquer this one too.

(I will write more about the actual testing and results later. My brain is mush right now from processing everything. )